How much is too much?

Miriam, Rowan and family

Miriam, Rowan and family

The youngest attendee at The Art of Nesting Workshop this weekend was a little show stealer named Rowan. He came with his mother, Miriam, and when they first arrived, I hardly noticed the tiny face peeking out from behind the polka-dot ‘wing’ of the Nesting Days Newborn Carrier his mother was wearing.

Miriam settled herself into a comfy chair with Rowan in the carrier, where he slept peacefully for the next hour and a half, demonstrating better than any of my prepared material, what the optimal environment for a newborn looks like.

At one point one of the soon-to-be mothers asked, ‘how much is too much?’

I was relieved that I had research to back me up and could say with confidence, “it’s impossible to spoil a baby by holding or responding to their needs too much”.

In the last decade, neonatologists have come out in strong support of responding to a newborn’s cues and meeting their basic needs, but the question, “am I spoiling my baby?’ still lingers.

“A challenge of the newborn is getting to know that the world is somehow reliable and trustworthy, that his or her basic needs will be met,” says J. Kevin Nugent, director of the Brazelton Institute at Children’s Hospital in Boston and a child psychologist.

“A spoiled child is one that’s manipulative, but babies don’t learn until they’re about 9 months that they can cry to get you to do something for them,” says Dr. Barbara Howard, assistant professor of pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore and a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ committee on psychosocial aspects of child and family health.

Spending lots of skin-to-skin time in the first 3 months in particular, provides the newborn with the sense of security it needs at this early stage of development.

Miriam and Rowan Nesting Days

Miriam and Rowan nesting in Nesting Days

The Nesting Days Newborn Carrier lets you spend the hours of skin-to-skin time your baby needs, frees up your hands so you can get a few things done, and provides the sheltered, warm nest that provides the optimal environment for the newborn birth to 3 months. It really is the ultimate mother-baby bonding experience.

Just ask baby Rowan and his mother.


Meet Rebekka…

Rebekka-Nesting Days Newborn Carrier

“I received the Nesting Days carrier as a gift for the birth of my second child. With my first born, who is now 3, I tried several other carriers, but always found flaws with each one. They were too complicated, bulky, or not snugly enough for my little one. Now that I have my Nesting Days carrier I don’t think I could live without it. It is easy to use, very comfortable to wear, holds my baby securely, and is stylish. Each time I am out I receive compliments and questions about where I got it. My little one sleeps comfortably in it on the go or when I’m at home. I love wearing my little one and this carrier is the way to do it. It is by far the best carrier out there!  Thank you, Julie!!!!!”


Portland, Oregon

Meet Lauren…

Lauren-Nesting Days Newborn Carrier

“When Johnny was born I was BLESSED to have Julie Arvan‘s prototype for her newborn carrier. I didn’t anticipate needing it much, as Jay had been such a great sleeper who loved stretching out on the floor during the day. Johnny came into this world announcing that he was not Jaymie and didn’t intend to act anything like her. He was my ‘body baby,’ who would ONLY sleep upright, against me. We couldn’t have survived his first 8 weeks of reflux and wakeful nights without this wonderful carrier. Mommies, daddies, friends of mommies & mommies to be, check it out and consider kickstarting Julie’s business. Before the baby fits in your Ergo, this is a must-have!”


Cupertino, California

Meet Karen…

Karen - Nesting Days Newborn Carriers

“The Nesting Days Newborn Carrier makes it very easy for me to carry and breastfeed my baby when needed at home and on the go! Because it is very stylish and comfortable, it allows me to wear it out as a top over my nursing bra. I highly recommend it to all breastfeeding mother.”


San Francisco, California



Meet Anke…

AnkeandMiai-Nesting Days Newborn Carrier

“I have been wearing the nestingdays carrier since my daughter Maia was about two weeks old and about 7.5 pounds. It is super practical and comfortable. On top of that it is fashionable and I really consider it more of a top or shirt rather than a baby carrier. I always wear it when going out to dinner with my baby for example. The simple style goes with many things and the fabric can be easily cleaned. Maia sometimes nurses in it and eventually falls asleep. She seems very happy hanging out with me when wearing the nestingdays carrier. Happy baby, happy mama : )”


San Francisco, California

Meet Wendy…


“My eight-week old baby craves being held close and hates being put down (waking or sleeping). This means hours of holding her and bouncing up and down, without a chance to do much else. Having a good sling is vital for me if I want to eat, answer the phone or run any errands. Nesting Days provides a secure, hands-free carrier for me to wear for hours. I have the option of wearing clothes or choosing skin-to-skin. I love the feeling of cradling her in my bosom. She’s snug and happy, and I’m incredibly comfortable. It’s easy to take the baby in and out and I like the way it looks. I’m a very happy customer.”


San Francisco, California

Meet Viviana…


“Stylish and super easy to wear (which is not the same for the more complicated Ergo), and above all it’s a hand-free option for a busy mom. Giulia, who is now two months old, loves to be snug inside this baby carrier. We stay skin to skin at home and even for a long walk (in most cases she falls asleep right away). It was amazing to discover the launch of this project in our city. It’s local and smart. We’ll support it.”


San Francisco, California