Nesting Days Newborn Carrier // Double Duty Mom // Review & Giveaway!

I want to wish new mom, Jennifer Mercurio, a very Happy Mother’s Day, and thank her for doing such a beautiful review on her blog, DoubleDutyMommy, of the Nesting Days Newborn Carrier!  I’m so excited that I’m posting it word for word  for all of my Nesting Days fans and followers to read!

You can also participate in the giveaway contest Jennifer is is running for Mother’s Day (ends 5/11), and take advantage of the a 20% discount that continues through May 30th when you enter the discount code  ‘DoubleDutyMommy’ at check out!

Happy Mother’s Day!


Nesting Days Newborn Carrier // Review & Giveaway!

Disclosure: I received the Nesting Days carrier to provide my honest review. No other monetary compensation was received and receiving the car seat did not guarantee a positive review. All opinions are mine unless noted otherwise.

I’m not sure when it happened but one day browsing Instagram I stumbled upon the Nesting Days account. I started following the account and she starting following me. Julie, the inventor & creator, knew baby Ben was on the way and provided a carrier for me to review.

This isn’t some ordinary carrier though so don’t stop reading now. I can’t stand carriers that have too many buckles or things you have to remember to do. Don’t get me wrong, I do love other carriers like Boba but since Ben is so tiny it’s just annoying to deal with all the buckles and straps but the Nesting Days carrier is different in that you can wear it with or without a shirt. Yes, you heard me right.

The Nesting Days carrier allows for skin-to-skin which we all know has many benefits including the following:

  • Boosts Oxycontin levels (the love hormone)
  • Helps stabilize blood sugar & insulin levels
  • Helps produce prolactin for milk production
  • Maintains baby’s body temperature
  • Lowers blood pressure and cortisol levels
  • Stimulates innate newborn reflexes
  • Aids with digestion * reduces reflux

Ben was born with jaundice that was getting worse and worse as the days went by so the Nesting Days carrier came in hand to do lots of skin-to-skin without keeping me tied down to the couch.

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So how easy is it? Putting the carrier on is so simple!!

  • Step in and pull the “core” up to your bra line.
  • Raise left shoulder sleeve.
  • Lower baby into carrier.
  • Raise right sleeve.
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*Don’t worry, his head was completely fine* (Just start walking and babies nestle right in.) 

‘Nesting Days wants to change the way the world thinks about babies. We believe in the language of touch, and skin-to-skin, and lots of holding, humming, and dancing in the moonlight.’

I completely agree with their mission statement and all that holding and humming in the Nesting Days Carrier has definitely helped us get through the past 3 weeks.
You can get the carrier in two different prints right now – Polka Dots or Floral (the one I have). It’s not bulky and can be folded up just as flat as a tank top you have in your closet. The stretchy fabric molds to your baby for the perfect fit every time (up to 4 months of age) while keeping you cool at the same time.

We love love love this carrier so much! The price is a little steep but it’s an investment you will not regret making especially if you will be having more babies in the future. Other carriers cannot do what the Nesting Days carrier can. Thankfully Ben is only 3 weeks old so we have lots of time with the carrier still but I’ll definitely be sad when he grows too big for it.

The amazing owner, Julie, wants everyone to experience the joy of her carriers that she is giving my readers a special 20% off code!!


But that’s not all! Enter to win a carrier in the print of your choice. Go to

Get ‘S2S’, trust you Right Brain and Lean Back

This weekend I had the opportunity to join a group of women who were all interested in what I’m interested in, namely; newborns, new mothers, skin-to-skin, and breastfeeding.

Each had their own story to tell, and I shared my baby/mommy carrier with them and got unanimous support!

In the last few years that I’ve been working on Nesting Days, the case for skin-to-skin (S2S) contact and instinctive nursing has become so compelling, that even those most opposed to change are starting to come around.

There is now irrefutable evidence that mother’s and babies who are put skin-to-skin, especially in the ‘golden hour’ following birth, and are allowed to latch unassisted, fair far better than babies that are separated from the the mother or are bottle fed or ‘taught’ to nurse.

What I mean by ‘taught’ is the practice that has become all the rage, where a new mother is instructed in how to get a proper ‘latch’.

Recent studies have shown that the more ‘left brain teaching’ that was going on, the less successful the outcome. Left alone, the ‘right brain instinct’ of both mother and baby did much better.

Bottom line, we are made to breastfeed.

It is how our species survived, and the instincts will plug in — if we trust and get out of the way! It is astounding what a newborn can do, and lactation is pretty incredible, too.

Next, lean back and enjoy it, right? I can’t tell you how many moms I meet who sit ram-rod straight up, with a ‘breast-friend’ pillow in some god awful color wrapped around their waist, gripping their babies head is a vice like grip, and holding it up to the nipple for dear life!  Oh my dear! Let’s start over.

I’ve been helping new mothers ‘lean back’  when they nurse ever since I heard Suzanne Colson speak several years ago.  Suzanne is the author of Laid Back Nursing and is a social anthropologist who has studied nursing in cultures around the world. She found that in almost every culture, other than our Western one, mothers let their babies lie, tummy to tummy with them, with their weight fully supported, to nurse.

And what about preemies?  For them, skin-to-skin is a key factor in helping mother and baby regain the conditioned instincts that enable them to nurse and bond.

So go S2S, trust your right brian and lean back —  you’ll never go back!

Your Chief Mother Officer,


6 days left!

That means only 6 more days to be the first to own a Nesting Days Newborn Carrier, or the first to give a Newborn Carrier to a mom and baby in need at San Francisco General Hospital, or the first to enjoy the Nesting Days Cabin in the Sierra Foothills!  We have even more rewards here.

Please tell everyone you know about Nesting Days on Kickstarter! Let’s keep changing the world, one baby at a time.


Nesting Days Cabin

One of the rewards for our Nesting Days Kickstarter campaign is a 3-day weekend stay at our cabin in the Sierra Foothills!

The cabin is about 3 hours north of San Francisco and sleeps eight people. There are two twin beds upstairs, two twin banquets downstairs, and four cots with bedding for deck sleeping. Full kitchen, bath and shower, an outdoor shower, patio, living room and screened in porch. Twenty minutes from swimming in the Yuba river, with nearby health food store and winery. 10 acres to yourself, plenty of hiking trails. Pledge $500 dollars and you can enjoy it!

Precious Cargo: Babywearing as an entry point to mindfulness

As a postpartum doula I have the privilege of being witness to the beginning of a love story that will last a lifetime.

While I help the new mother in many ways, I feel that my most important role is to help nurture the bond between mother and newborn.

Pictured below are two mothers I recently met. You can almost see the connection growing!  The downward gaze of the mother, the upward tilt of the baby’s head.

One of the babies in the picture below is adopted, but it doesn’t matter which.  Both are benefiting from the power of skin-to-skin contact, both are breast fed, and both are totally loved.

The adopted infant’s mother is using the Medela Supplemental Nursing System (SNS) to feed her baby, and is delighted with how easy it is to use.

Nesting Days is the only carrier that is designed for very little babies, including preemies, and is made to help the new mother hold her baby skin-to-skin while using a breast pump.


While being hands-free is a plus, the biggest benefits comes from ‘tuning -in’.  Having your newborn ‘heart-to-heart’, is Nature’s way of teaching us to be more mindful.

Each winch, sigh, fart, and bowel movement is relayed.  Subtle signals that baby is hungry sends a cascade of chemicals through her body. Mothers breast respond with the flow of milk even before sucking begins. The sweet smell of her baby’s neck makes her uterus contract and healing takes place postpartum. All Nature’s way of making us more mindful.

San Francisco, nurse-midwife and mindfulness teacher, Nancy Bardacke, has just written a book called Mindful Birthing. She was also my mid-wife for my second child, and I have never forgotten the lessons she taught me all those years ago. Her book isn’t just about about birth, however, it is about the importance of mindful parenting, and celebrating the joy in every moment. I highly recommend it.

My life journey, as a mother, educator, and postpartum doula has lead me to believe in the language of touch, and skin-to-skin, and lots of holding, and humming, and dancing in the moonlight.  And in the wisdom of a new mother’s body, the power of her milk, the fierceness of her love, and the softness of her heart.

Julie Arvan, Chief Mother Officer of Nesting Days

How to back our project on Kickstarter!

Kickstarter is a new way to fund creative projects. We are launching a Kickstarter on July 12th to produce our first run of Nesting Days Newborn Carriers!

How can you back our project?

1. Go to

2. If you don’t already have an account, click ‘Sign Up’ in the top left corner. Or click this link Sign up for Kickstarter.

3. Fill out your name, email, and a password. Uncheck the box if you don’t want emails from Kickstarter.

4. Click the green ‘Sign me up’ button.

5. Add a reminder in your phone or calendar for July 12th to come back and back our project!

Nesting – Part of a Movement for Change

Two blue jays built a nest in my lemon tree early in the spring, and I had patiently kept my distance as they diligently tended their young over the past months. As it turned officially summer this weekend, I decided it was time to get the ladder out and take a closer look at their handicraft.

The outer layer of the nest was made of hundreds of of twigs about ⅛ to 1/4 inch in diameter.  The liner was comprised of thousands of long strands of fine grass along with threads from my sewing in the yard, pressed into a 1-inch thick mat until it mirrored perfectly the shape of the mother bird’s breast — all part of Mother Nature’s plan for survival of the species, and encoded in their DNA.

There is a saying among architects; “the only thing man cannot build is a bird’s nest’.

From the very onset of our awareness, we are all born into a nest that shapes how we experience our world.

The interplay between the human newborn and the outer world has a profound affect on how easy or difficult the first days, weeks and months of life are.

If it is a hostile, cold or unresponsive environment the baby is hard-wired for either fight or flight. Neither is good.

If it is a warm, welcoming, nurturing and responsive environment, the baby will find its natural rhythms of waking, feeding, sleeping and exploring the world around it.


Mothers throughout history mothers have known this, and in every culture women have created ‘nests’ — finding different ways to attach their babies to their bodies to ensure that they have the intimacy, warmth and nurturing they need to survive and thrive during the first months of life.

It has only been in the last hundred years, and predominantly in Western cultures, that the idea that the ‘place’ for infants was in a crib or baby carriage, became the norm. This shift came at the same time that commercial formula became popular, and it became prescribed practice that your newborn should sleep through the night or be left to ‘cry it out’.

It is only, thanks to recent research, that these mores were not only found to be wrong, but harmful.

Part of my motivation in creating Nesting Days Newborn Carrier was to become part of a movement for changing how we welcome the newborn into the world, and to give voice to the innate knowledge that resides in our species, to nest and nurture –  during the Nesting Days.

Your Chief Mother Officer,


Happy Father’s Day!

Today is Father’s Day, and my husband and I are enjoying a weekend at our cabin in the Sierra Foothills, taking a break from city-life in San Francisco, and getting some much needed R&R…at least that was the plan.

I spent most of Saturday writing a script for a video for Nesting Days, and suddenly realized that I hadn’t taken the time to slow down and enjoy how special this day is.

I am a very lucky woman. I’ve been married to a wonderful man for over 40 years, and we’ve been through many ups and downs together.

We took one day at a time, and today, I’m going to end this blog to spend the rest of the day enjoying him.

I hope you all have a wonderful Father’s Day and do the same!

Julie, Your Chief Mother Officer

The Merger Poem by Judy Chicago

This beautiful and hopeful poem has always touched my heart.

I hope you will take time to read it — really read it — and let it touch yours.

xo, Julie

And then all that has divided us will merge.

And then compassion will be wedded to power

And then softness will come to a world that is harsh and unkind.

And then both men and women will be gentle.

And then both women and men will be strong.

And then no person will be subject to another’s will.

And then all will be rich and free and varied.

And then the greed of some will give way to the needs of many.

And then all will share equally in the earth’s abundance.

And then all will care for the sick and the weak and the old.

And then all will nourish the young.

And then all will cherish life’s creatures.

And then all will live in harmony with each other and the earth.

And then everywhere will be called Eden once again.

Judy Chicago