All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten (and from my mother)

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From the moment I stepped out of my front door to get coffee across the street at the local market, I was looking for inspiration for this Mother’s Day newsletter.

It came in the form of the #19 bus and the handful of mothers and fathers holding their children’s hands as they crossed the street on their way to school. 

Stop, look and listen before you cross the street. 
Use your eyes, and use your ears, and then use your feet.’ 

I had learned this rhyme in kindergarten a half a century ago, and suddenly my brain was on rewind, my heart was in control, and I could see ‘mothering’ is all around me.

All I had to do was stop, look and listen.

Just as suddenly I missed the days when my little ones reached for my hand to cross the street, and the second cup of coffee in my left hand (a long-shot of espresso) made me want to run home and tell George how grateful I am to have shared my life with him. I missed my mother, father, and siblings, and even the dogs that I have said good bye to — all this in a matter of moments just looking for inspiration to share with my Nesting Days ‘people’. 

Mothering, I think, is a state of mind, like the one I slipped into this morning when I could see just how precious all of life is. Some of the best ‘mothers’ I know are not biological parents or women, but people who live their life with an open heart and a willing hand. It knows no gender, age, ethnicity or sexual orientation.

Mother’s Day began with the mission of honoring our individual mothers for all they do for us, and also as a peace movement. I think I created Nesting Days for the same two reasons.

(Hop over to http://doubledutymommy.com/2014/05/nesting-days-newborn-carrier-review-giveaway.html/  to read the review we got this week from a mommy blogger fan when you’ve finished reading this. We really are changing how we welcome babies into the world, one baby at at time! )

At my niece’s recent wedding last month, she had her kindergarten teacher read an excerpt from the bookAll I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten — by Robert Fulghum.

I hope you will take a minute to read it, open your heart, think of your Mom, pat yourself on the back for all of the ‘mothering’ you do, and have a very…
Happy Mother’s Day!

JulieYour Chief Mother Officer
Nesting Days Newborn Carriers

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All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten — by Robert Fulghum 

All I really need to know I learned in kindergarten.
ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW about how to live and what to do
and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not
at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the
sandpile at Sunday School. These are the things I learned:

Share everything.
Play fair.
Don’t hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.

Live a balanced life – learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work every day some. 

Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together. 

Be aware of wonder.
Remember the little seed in the styrofoam cup:

The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody
really knows how or why, but we are all like that. 

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even
the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. 

So do we. 

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books
and the first word you learned – the biggest
word of all – LOOK. 

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Nesting Days Newborn Carrier // Double Duty Mom // Review & Giveaway!

I want to wish new mom, Jennifer Mercurio, a very Happy Mother’s Day, and thank her for doing such a beautiful review on her blog, DoubleDutyMommy, of the Nesting Days Newborn Carrier!  I’m so excited that I’m posting it word for word  for all of my Nesting Days fans and followers to read!

You can also participate in the giveaway contest Jennifer is is running for Mother’s Day (ends 5/11), and take advantage of the a 20% discount that continues through May 30th when you enter the discount code  ‘DoubleDutyMommy’ at check out!

Happy Mother’s Day!

 

Nesting Days Newborn Carrier // Review & Giveaway!

Disclosure: I received the Nesting Days carrier to provide my honest review. No other monetary compensation was received and receiving the car seat did not guarantee a positive review. All opinions are mine unless noted otherwise.

I’m not sure when it happened but one day browsing Instagram I stumbled upon the Nesting Days account. I started following the account and she starting following me. Julie, the inventor & creator, knew baby Ben was on the way and provided a carrier for me to review.

This isn’t some ordinary carrier though so don’t stop reading now. I can’t stand carriers that have too many buckles or things you have to remember to do. Don’t get me wrong, I do love other carriers like Boba but since Ben is so tiny it’s just annoying to deal with all the buckles and straps but the Nesting Days carrier is different in that you can wear it with or without a shirt. Yes, you heard me right.

The Nesting Days carrier allows for skin-to-skin which we all know has many benefits including the following:

  • Boosts Oxycontin levels (the love hormone)
  • Helps stabilize blood sugar & insulin levels
  • Helps produce prolactin for milk production
  • Maintains baby’s body temperature
  • Lowers blood pressure and cortisol levels
  • Stimulates innate newborn reflexes
  • Aids with digestion * reduces reflux

Ben was born with jaundice that was getting worse and worse as the days went by so the Nesting Days carrier came in hand to do lots of skin-to-skin without keeping me tied down to the couch.

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So how easy is it? Putting the carrier on is so simple!!

  • Step in and pull the “core” up to your bra line.
  • Raise left shoulder sleeve.
  • Lower baby into carrier.
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*Don’t worry, his head was completely fine* (Just start walking and babies nestle right in.) 

‘Nesting Days wants to change the way the world thinks about babies. We believe in the language of touch, and skin-to-skin, and lots of holding, humming, and dancing in the moonlight.’

I completely agree with their mission statement and all that holding and humming in the Nesting Days Carrier has definitely helped us get through the past 3 weeks.
You can get the carrier in two different prints right now – Polka Dots or Floral (the one I have). It’s not bulky and can be folded up just as flat as a tank top you have in your closet. The stretchy fabric molds to your baby for the perfect fit every time (up to 4 months of age) while keeping you cool at the same time.

We love love love this carrier so much! The price is a little steep but it’s an investment you will not regret making especially if you will be having more babies in the future. Other carriers cannot do what the Nesting Days carrier can. Thankfully Ben is only 3 weeks old so we have lots of time with the carrier still but I’ll definitely be sad when he grows too big for it.

The amazing owner, Julie, wants everyone to experience the joy of her carriers that she is giving my readers a special 20% off code!!

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But that’s not all! Enter to win a carrier in the print of your choice. Go to http://doubledutymommy.com/2014/05/nesting-days-newborn-carrier-review-giveaway.html/

Stay Close to Nature

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We’re at our cabin in the Sierra Nevada mountains for the weekend. It sits on ten acres of wilderness on the San Juan Ridge just outside of Nevada City. We bought the property twelve years ago and slowly turned an old barn into a sweet cabin. Recent rains have turned everything around us a vivid green, the  birds are singing, and spring has sprung.

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 I drew the plans myself, and got them through the planning commission on the first try. I wanted the round, smooth rocks of the Yuba River to be the grounding force of the cabin, and the exterior to blend into the landscape. George and I spent weekends hunting through salvage yards for windows and doors, and the doug fir plank flooring from an old Oakland warehouse to give it ‘character’, and also save money.  I hunted through boxes of Heath Tile seconds to find enough to do the kitchen counter tops (which I laid myself) and their buttery tones became the color scheme.  The cabin literally glows, inside and out.  To transport everything, we bought a truck, which I love driving to this day, and when I’m here, I feel at peace.

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 I needed to blog more…but the day is coming to and end and I’m going to enjoy it. I’ll leave you with this poem, that pretty much sums it up.

“I Meant To Do My Work Today”

by Richard LeGallienne

I meant to do my work today,

But a brown bird sang in the apple tree,

And a butterfly flitted across the field,

And all the leaves were calling me.

And the wind went sighing over the land,

Tossing the grasses to and fro,

And a rainbow held out its shining hand,

So what could I do but laugh and go?

Happy Nesting Days!

Julie

Chief Mother Officer

Springtime in San Francisco

“Study nature, love nature, stay close to nature.  It will never fail you.”  – Frank Lloyd Wright

It is Springtime in San Francisco, and yesterday I went out early into the garden — and forgot to come back in.  I meant to stay only an hour, but as I weeded and watered the time just slipped by. Every once in a while I’d stop to think about all the things that I ‘should’ be doing, but ultimately, nature won out. Can you blame me? George bought me the purple hose for our anniversary. Don’t laugh, we’ve been married a long time and he knows what makes me happy. 

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Nature picked me up, held me close and helped me make a full recover from MommyCon.  It was a great venue to show off Nesting Days but I needed a few days to recover!

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Luckily, I am not alone. For Easter I’ve teamed up with mommy blogger, Kristen LaValley of WhenAtHome for a giveaway, and look what she posted on her blog today!

Kristen who reviewed Nesting Days last fall, and has been amazing supportive in helping to spread the word.  To read her review & see it in action go right here!

If you have a baby on the way, or know someone who does, tell them to get those entries in  right away.  I’m also doing a 20% off promotion with WhenAtHome  for the month of April.

Look for more give-aways with other mommy bloggers in the future.  They rock!

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Julie

Staying in touch

We all know what world hunger is, but you may not know what world skin hunger is, so I thought I’d start by giving you a little background on it and tell you why I think it is so important.

Skin hunger was first used to describe the response of newborn monkeys taken from their biological mothers and given to surrogates made of wire and soft terry cloth. They didn’t fair very well. It was then applied to infants in hospitals and orphanages in war ravaged countries, and later to preemies confined to incubators in our modern hospitals for extended periods of time. The results in all three of these scenarios was a diagnosis of ‘failure to thrive.’ These are examples what happens when skin hunger is NOT fed.

A strong skin hunger however is Nature’s way of equipping babies and mothers with the instinct to attach. Skin hunger triggers the maternal desire to hold, feed and nurture, and the baby’s desire to root, suckle, and explore. When properly fed, the result is the enhance physical and psychological health of both mother and baby, and a strong mother-child bond. 

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Just up the coast from me is Muir Woods. Scientists have discovered that in these ancient forests there is a Mother Tree that is larger and older than all the other trees in the forest.  Her roots are literally connected with all the other trees in the forest through a huge underground network of mushrooms that are thousands of years old. The Mother Tree loving regulates the health of the forest by allocating nutrients in the soil to keep the forest thriving.Next Kids Presentation 11:6.001

We humans have survived for thousands of years too, relying on the roots of Maternal Love in much the same way that the forests rely on the Mother Tree.  Unfortunately, during the 20th century, both forests and motherhood succumb to the will of the prevailing culture that couldn’t understand what they couldn’t see.  Today, however, we are at a turning point. The new sciences of the 21st century sciences are revealing to us the mystery of the cosmos, of our bodies and of our minds, and are helping us correct our past mistakes and giving us the opportunity to create new-old ways of caring for our planet and for ourselves.

At Nesting Days we focus a great deal on the biological mother, but having baby skin-to-skin makes bonding for Dads easier too, and helps to build the parental bond for adoptive parents as well.  Inside the newborn carrier, the baby becomes familiar with voices, scents and motions, and learns to trust the world around him or her and is able to enjoy a multitude of biological and emotional benefits.

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This is an invitation to put your roots down in the Nesting Days forest and be a collective voice for ending world skin hunger. In the Nesting Days forest there is no such thing as ‘failure to thrive.’

As we welcome our babies more lovingly into the world, we might just find that we are also becoming more compassionate about sharing this planet and also put an end to world hunger. 

Email me with your comments and your stories.

Your Chief Mother Officer,

Julie 

P.S. – Skin hunger doesn’t disappear just because we grow up. All people, regardless of age, need to be held and touched. Pass out some hugstoday.  

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